You articulate something many people feel but struggle to name: how living in a constant state of accommodation slowly erodes trust in your own needs. The way you trace this back to everyday interactions rather than big traumas makes the point feel both ordinary and devastatingly clear.
This one really resonated with me. I was diagnosed with ADHD at 55. At first i was relieved because I finally understood that maybe I wasn’t a total f***up after all. Then the grief slowly moved in as I realized that my life could have been so different if I had only known. All the negative stuff might not have happened but on the other side, I have come to understand that lots of things I have achieved might not have happened either. I still grieve from time to time but I know that it’s a process. Life is a process.
This is like the outline of my life, with a few exceptions. It all sounds so familiar it’s disconcerting. For me it was Covid that stripped it all the way and I pursued a diagnosis because I just needed that. It took a bit to get the diagnosis. But I’m glad I did because now I can get the help I need. Wonderfully thorough post!
You articulate something many people feel but struggle to name: how living in a constant state of accommodation slowly erodes trust in your own needs. The way you trace this back to everyday interactions rather than big traumas makes the point feel both ordinary and devastatingly clear.
This one really resonated with me. I was diagnosed with ADHD at 55. At first i was relieved because I finally understood that maybe I wasn’t a total f***up after all. Then the grief slowly moved in as I realized that my life could have been so different if I had only known. All the negative stuff might not have happened but on the other side, I have come to understand that lots of things I have achieved might not have happened either. I still grieve from time to time but I know that it’s a process. Life is a process.
This is like the outline of my life, with a few exceptions. It all sounds so familiar it’s disconcerting. For me it was Covid that stripped it all the way and I pursued a diagnosis because I just needed that. It took a bit to get the diagnosis. But I’m glad I did because now I can get the help I need. Wonderfully thorough post!