Monday Reset: When the weekend arrives and you freeze instead of relax
This week's focus: Stop the weekend anxiety spiral
Friday night feels good. You made it through the week. You finally have two whole days to yourself. You can sleep in, catch up on things, relax, do that hobby you’ve been meaning to get to.
Then Saturday morning arrives. You wake up and... nothing. No meetings. No deadlines. No structure telling you what to do. And instead of feeling free, you feel anxious. Lost. You scroll your phone for two hours because you can’t decide what to do first. By noon, you haven’t done anything and the guilt starts creeping in. By Sunday night, you’re beating yourself up because the weekend is gone and you “wasted” it. Again.
Your Brain This Week
When the structure of our week disappears, our brains struggle to create our own. We need external structure to function, but weekends remove all of it. We can’t decide what to do, we can’t prioritize, and we end up doing nothing or bouncing between tasks without finishing any of them. The guilt of “wasting” time makes the paralysis worse.
This Week's Strategy: The Three Anchors
Don’t leave your weekend completely unstructured. Pick three anchors for each day (morning, afternoon, evening) and let everything else be flexible.
How it works:
On Friday night, pick three anchors for Saturday & Sunday
One thing for the morning (9am-12pm)
One thing for the afternoon (12pm-5pm)
One thing for the evening (5pm-bedtime)
Make them realistic and specific:
Morning: Go to the farmer’s market
Afternoon: Do laundry
Evening: Cook dinner
Why this helps: We need some structure to function, but too much structure feels overwhelming. Three anchors give you just enough. You’re not over-scheduling your weekend. You’re giving your brain three things to hold onto so you don’t spend the whole day frozen, scrolling, or bouncing between tasks. And when Sunday night comes, you can look back and see you did your three things each day.
The 2-Minute Worksheet
Saturday's Three Anchors:
Morning (9am-12pm): _______________________
Example: grocery shopping, farmer's market, clean one room, go for a walk
Afternoon (12pm-5pm): _______________________
Example: laundry, meal prep, meet a friend, work on a hobby
Evening (5pm-bedtime): _______________________
Example: cook dinner, movie night, call family, read
Sunday's Three Anchors:
Morning (9am-12pm): _______________________
Afternoon (12pm-5pm): _______________________
Evening (5pm-bedtime): _______________________Grab a piece of paper or open a note on your phone and fill in the blanks above. It takes 2 minutes and it might just help :)


This is why retirement is such a mess for me! I am constantly trying to give structure to the days; and obviously, what I have is not enough. The morning anxiety is unbearable many days.
Having to give up my treasured career (working with toddlers who have autism) due to a TBI has been one adjustment after another.
Now that I’m through the surgeries, the physical therapy, the grief, and reached acceptance of my new life, I struggle each day because there is no structure.
For the past few years, I thought it was me and my oft times wonky brain. I blamed myself for not being able to accomplish the things that I wanted to get done.
Your newsletter and your wise insights have helped me to realize that it’s not me (to the degree I thought it was anyway). That I _need_ structure. And that it’s possible.
Thank you. A zillion times, thank you. 🦋