Monday Reset: When you were doing so well and then just... stopped
This week’s focus: Stop letting shame kill your follow-through
You were doing so well. Three weeks of going to the gym. Meal prepping every Sunday. Actually using that planner you bought. You felt good. You felt like maybe this time would be different. Then you missed one day. Then a week. Then two weeks. And now the thought of going back feels impossible because you already failed. You broke the streak. You proved once again that you can’t stick with anything.
Your Brain This Week
When we stop doing something we committed to, our brains don’t see it as a pause. We see it as proof we failed. And that shame makes going back feel unbearable because it means facing the gap, admitting we stopped, and starting over from zero. So instead of restarting, we quit entirely. The shame of stopping becomes bigger than the thing we were trying to do.
This Week’s Strategy: The Restart Rule
Think of following through as going back after you stop, instead of being 100% consistent and not missing any days.
How it works:
Notice when you’ve stopped doing something you wanted to keep doing
The gym, the planner, the morning routine, meal prep, whatever
Acknowledge the gap without judgment: “I stopped for [X days/weeks]. That happened.”
Not “I failed” or “I’m terrible at this”. Just “I stopped”
Ask yourself: “Do I still want to do this thing?”
If yes → restart today
If no → let it go guilt-free
Restart exactly where you left off. No fresh start. Just go back.
Go to the gym today for 20 minutes (even if it’s been three weeks)
Meal prep this Sunday (even if you ordered takeout for two weeks straight)
Open the planner tomorrow (even if the last entry was from October)
Why this helps: The shame of stopping is what kills follow-through. When we stop doing something, we tell ourselves we failed, we’re starting over from zero, we’ve lost all our progress. None of that is true. Following through means going back after you stop. That’s it. No shame. No starting over. Just: you stopped, and now you’re going again.
The 2-Minute Worksheet
Something I stopped doing that I want to restart: _______________________
Examples: gym, meal prep, morning walk, journaling, calling my mom weekly
How long it's been since I stopped: _______________________
The truth: I stopped for [X time], and that's okay. I can restart today.
I'm restarting by: _______________________
(Fill in: specific action, like "Going to the gym after work today" / "Meal prepping three meals this Sunday")Grab a piece of paper or open a note on your phone and fill in the blanks above. It takes 2 minutes and it might just help :)
so useful! Thank you! xxx
I got this t-shirt at Hot Topic yesterday. The bottom box says "Analysis Paralysis.”