Forty Years of Talking to Yourself Like That

Where the harsh way you talk to yourself came from, and why late is not too late

It’s lunch with a friend and you’re halfway through a sentence when the name you were reaching for is just gone. You laugh, say it’ll come to you, and she keeps talking. But the voice in your head has already started, the same one that’s been running as long as you can remember: there you go again, scattered, you’ve always been like this.

A couple of years ago you went looking for why everything felt like more effort for you than it seemed to take everyone else, and the ADHD diagnosis explained a lot of it. It didn’t quiet the voice, though. That still talks to you the way it always has, and part of you has started to wonder whether an answer that came this late can change how you see yourself.

There’s a 5-minute worksheet at the end of this newsletter called Where That Voice Came From. It helps you hear whose voice your inner critic really is, so the things it says stop landing like the truth about you.

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