You check your bank account and your stomach drops. Where did the money go this time? You remember the subscription you forgot to cancel. The coffee runs that seemed harmless. That thing you bought because it was "on sale" even though you didn't need it.
The math doesn't add up, but somehow you're short again. You tell yourself you'll track everything next week, but that voice in your head knows better. This isn't the first time you've had this conversation with yourself.
Money feels like a puzzle everyone else solved while you were looking the other way. You're smart, capable, good at plenty of things. But financial stuff? It's like your brain goes offline the moment numbers get involved.
You're not financially reckless or lazy. ADHD brains process money decisions differently, and that creates real challenges with spending, saving, and planning. But there are ways to work with how your brain actually functions instead of fighting it.
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Why money feels impossible to manage
You make a budget. You break it within three days. You pay a bill twice because you forgot it was on autopay. You buy six books for a business idea that dies two weeks later. And the whole time, a voice in your head whispers that you should have figured this out by now.
If you're over 30 and still feel like you're financially failing at basic adulting, you're not alone. The shame hits hard because money feels like something everyone else just gets. But here's the truth: your brain works differently with money decisions, and nobody taught you how to handle that.
When you see something you want, your brain floods with "I need this now" chemicals before the "think about tomorrow" part even wakes up. It's like having a toddler driving the car while the adult is still putting on their seatbelt. This isn't a character flaw - studies show two-thirds of people with ADHD struggle with impulse buying and saving money because our brains prioritize immediate rewards over future benefits.
Your working memory can only hold so much information at once. So tracking multiple expenses feels overwhelming. Time moves weirdly in ADHD brains - six months feels like forever, but right now feels urgent. You forget what you spent yesterday while the thing you want today feels critical.
This is why budgets fall apart the moment life gets busy. Why you lose receipts and forget subscriptions. Why you can plan a complex work project but can't track where your money goes. You're not broken. You're working with a brain that needs different tools than the ones everyone else uses.
How to make money a little easier with ADHD
The goal isn't perfection. It's not having a panic attack every time you check your bank account. Here are systems that work with ADHD brains instead of against them.
Automate the essentials, then forget they exist. Set up autopay for bills and automatic transfers to savings. Use a separate checking account just for bills if you need to. The point is removing decisions from your future overwhelmed self. When rent, utilities, and minimum payments happen automatically, you can't forget them. You also can’t accidentally spend that money on something else.
Make impulse spending require effort. Delete shopping apps from your phone. Leave credit cards at home for routine errands. Use the cart save feature instead of buying immediately. Create a "want list" where things sit for a week before you decide. The goal isn't to never buy anything - it's to make sure you actually want it instead of just wanting the dopamine hit of clicking "buy."
Use physical money systems for spending. Mental budgets fail ADHD brains because we can't hold multiple numbers in our heads while living life. Try cash envelopes, separate debit cards for different spending categories, or visual budgeting apps that show exactly where your money went. Make your money concrete and visible instead of abstract numbers.
Plan for financial chaos. You will mess up. You'll forget a subscription, pay a bill twice, or impulse-buy something ridiculous. Budget a small "ADHD tax" each month for these mistakes. This removes the shame spiral when it happens and keeps minor financial hiccups from becoming major disasters.
Give yourself permission to spend on purpose. Telling yourself "no fun money ever" guarantees a rebellion. Instead, build planned spending into your system. Whether it's $50 a month for coffee or $200 for hobbies, make it intentional. Then when you spend it, there's no guilt because it was part of the plan.
None of this makes money effortless. But having systems that work when your brain doesn't can keep small problems from becoming big ones.
Dive into our Apply It worksheet (free for everyone)
This week's worksheet is all about turning money chaos into manageable systems. It walks you through identifying your current financial feelings, setting up automatic savings that happens without you thinking about it, and budgeting for ADHD mistakes so they don't derail everything. You'll automate bills to remove decision fatigue, reward yourself for taking action, and pick one small financial win to tackle this week. It's not about becoming a budgeting expert, just about making basic money management feel less impossible.
Turning spending into a game
Megan, a thirty-seven-year-old mom in Australia, was drowning financially when shopping apps became her escape during overwhelming days with three kids and work deadlines. When she and her partner couldn't afford groceries one week, they stopped relying on willpower and built systems that worked with her ADHD brain instead. They automated essential bills, deleted shopping apps, set up recurring grocery orders, and created a visual tracking system where each no-spend day earned a colored mark on the calendar. The dopamine hit of filling in those boxes kept her motivated when discipline failed, and monthly check-ins became friendly accountability rather than shame sessions. After several months of these systems running automatically, they had saved enough for a weekend away, and Megan stopped feeling ashamed every time she opened her bank account. Her approach shows that the right structure can replace the constant battle against your own brain.
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A big thank you to Jo, Toni, Heather, Helen, Flights, Nicole, Terry, Sara, Naomi, Amy, Whimsical, Jen, Liz, and Samuel for sharing your thoughts in Substack Chat, your voices helped shape this week’s piece.
Um, I think you’ll find I said *6,000* books for my new business idea, not six. Who only buys six?! 😉 Just kidding. Thanks for this post, very useful 👍 And, glad to help.
Thanks for de info!!!